Magnificent Marriage Monday – Dealing With Your Disobedience!

And he said to the man, “Because you listened to your wife and ate from the tree about which I commanded you, ‘Do not eat from it’: The ground is cursed because of you. You will eat from it by means of painful labor all the days of your life. It will produce thorns and thistles for you, and you will eat the plants of the field. You will eat bread by the sweat of your brow until you return to the ground, since you were taken from it. For you are dust, and you will return to dust.”” (Genesis 3:17–19, CSB)


Because you listened to your wife and ate from the tree about which I commanded you, ‘Do not eat from it’. All too often we choose to disobey rather than obey. Granted, Adam’s motive might have been something right out of our recent culture’s mantra: “A happy wife leads to a happy life.” But, as God demonstrates, that motto doesn’t apply to overriding what He has commanded.

Husbands are the spiritual heads of their homes, the ones who are supposed to “give their lives” for their wives (Ephesians 5). When a man chooses to follow the plan of God, God blesses the home of God. He is to follow Jesus Christ, just as Jesus follows the Father (1 Corinthians 11:3). When the man follows his King, Jesus, he is able to bring abundant and bountiful blessings to his wife and family.

Magnificent marriage happens when you, the husband, keep your focus and the focus of your family on the commands, directives, ordinances, statutes, and examples God has uttered through the pages of His holy Word.

And when we fail at that, when we choose to listen to anyone– including our wives – over the expressed and declared directive of God, we must brace for the impact those consequences will have not only upon us, but on the wife we want a happy life with.

Adam is our quintessential example here. He chose to listen to his wife over God and he paid a heavy price for it … and we still do today as a result. Generations are often blessed or scarred by the choices we make each and every day. To obey brings God’s blessing. To disobey brings God’s curse.

Whatever your situation today, choose to do the right thing. Choose God’s way. Bless your wife. Create a happy life.


Magnificent Marriage Mondays are helpful hints, clues, ideas, and solutions for the child of God who is looking for a spouse, in a relationship with someone, or are already married. Each post seeks to bring help, hope, and honesty to your life and make the rest of your life, the best of your life. They are written by Dr. Matthew Lee Smith, Executive Director of Eagles In Leadership, and come from his 38 years, 5 months and 2 days experience with his wife, Melodee, who was promoted to Heaven on November 11, 2017. He is currently seeking God’s will for his new life partner. He welcomes your comments below.

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